Emotional Systems: Evolutions solutions to the challenges of living

Activation and regulation to help us flourish and thrive.

Building Emotional Capacity

For 1000s of years our lack of understanding blocked our ability to take care of our physical health.Leeches, blood letting and being helped to endure ill health were common responses. Even 100 years ago the 10 physiological systems (cardiovascular, respiratory, immune, renal... etc) that are...

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Focusing on the full continuum of the safety system. flee, flight and freedom.

"It was hard to accept that level of awareness and intention in something that did not look in any way human. A sense washed over me that this orca was just as aware of living as I was: that he could perceive all the details that I perceive, the feeling of atmosphere and sea, the texture of...

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Co-creating change and never giving up. Be a tug boat.

The learning I’m reflecting on today is about how we support culture change. I spend a lot of time planning about how to increase the opportunities for effective, emotional learning. I place a lot of value on shared emotional experiences, where we can lean into newness within our own process...

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Assertiveness, mechanisms of repression and restraint, and learning from wolves.

"Our subject is very obscure, but from its importance, must be discussed at some little length; and it is always advisable to perceive clearly our ignorance." Charles Darwin. The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals. The assertiveness system is the system that enables us to speak...

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​Are your kids having mixed feelings about returning to school?

Don’t dismiss them. It is a great opportunity for talking about complex mixed feelings. Whilst it is natural that they are looking forward to spending time with friends, having more freedom, or just being out of the house it is also likely that, having been away from them, that they are more...

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FEELS GOOD system: sensuality brings longevity.

Talking about feeling good and sensuality can get us a little coy or hot under the collar. However, just as for all the other systems a healthy sensuality system is vital for everyone. This system helps us to feel good and to differentiate what feels good from what feels bad. Simple as...

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PLAY system - the serious business of play

Playful activities bring us great joy, with rough-and-tumble play being seen as the most fun of all. The play system is vital because it provides opportunities to learn and develop vital skills for survival when the world is safe, and for practicing with abundant variations and flexibility. All...

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Introduction to the CARE system, and our drives for autonomy and belonging

Snakes and lizards don't need a complex CARE system, but human children, and other baby mammals, would simply not survive without caregivers investing time and energy devoting themselves to their growth and wellbeing long term. Parents, extended families and communities, use a solid set of...

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Connection system: activating closeness, grief and when need be - panic.

"The best medicine for grief is the warmth and comfort we gain from our loving relationships.” Jaak Panksepp Connection to ourselves, others and our world is vital for our wellbeing. We need a healthy CONNECTION system which enables: CONNECTION and emotional closeness with others and...

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Safety System: rest and digest or flight and freeze?

This system is vital because it quickly alerts us to danger, preparing us for running away (flight) or staying still (freezing).Our safety system enables us to recover, to ‘rest and digest’ when danger has passed. We rest and digest when the coast is clear. We sleep and play, explore and put our...

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